💌 12th Letter of Monchithi (Text)
My problems are given below:
1. As the pandemic has been lasting for 5 months my family is in financial crisis. And that’s why we borrow some money from some people. My father earn little so he can’t bear our (3 siblings) educational expenditure sometime. But as i’m studying in DU i have some tuition so i can bear my bear my all expenditure. And sometimes i take money from my father. But right now my father is debt to other people so he can’t help me anymore as he told me. So right now i have to earn my own to feed myself. I can’t even think whether i will be able to bear my expenditure if i have no tuition.
2. I’m introvert in nature so i can’t easily make friends. Sometimes i think I’ve a best friend but then i realize that she/he doesn’t think that I’m his/her best friend. Sometimes when i share my problems they make fun of myself. So i feel alone for this…
So those 2 are my problems. I can’t sleep well when i start to think about those. It will be better if you give me some solution so that i can get rid of those 2 problems.
📮 Reply of 12th Monchithi (Text)
First of all, you are most welcome for sharing your issues to us. “Sharing and seeking for help” is the most important and vital steps to solve or deal with problems.
And, You did it successfully. As you have mentioned, your family is suffering from financial crisis due to covid-19 situation. And you are feeling uncertainty about your family and your educational costs. Actually, it’s a bitter truth that a lot of people around us are going through this situation at this moment.
I have noticed a good thing you said, you have some tuition and from these you can bear your expenditure. And i see, you are in tensed as your father said, he won’t be able to help you due to his short income. I can understand that you are worried about your future expenditure if you lose your tuition.
I want to tell you, many people are going through this critical situation and you are one of them. This type of situation becomes more oppressive when we give excessive focus on our past or future rather than present. Only thinking about uncertain future Won’t give any solution rather anxiety.
As you said, you are educated, you have tuition, you are doing your job perfectly this time, you and your family are still cured from covid-19. And I see, you are a careful person about yourself and your family.
You also defined yourself as an introvert person. Introvert is just a personality type. You said, you have limited friends and you can’t share your problems with them. I understand, this make you feel lonely. You might not find someone trustworthy and friendly enough, Does it mean, you will never find someone friendly and trustworthy? when I see, you are an honest person to trust others. Sometimes it takes time to make good friendship. Before that, Can you be your friend first? Can you acknowledge your own feelings and thoughts? Which all are yours. You can share your feelings and thoughts to the trusted person you found in your life or may be with your family members.
You have achieved a glorious academic qualification carrying with this introvert nature. Perhaps you may lose something in your life. Besides this, you have achieved a lot of things. Can you just take a look back to your life to see which side is more heavier. Your achievement or loss? And finally to make an effective communication focus on yourself, how you are feeling, what you want, express it with a positive appealing way.
You can make some mistakes. Keep in mind, How much time you spend in a day to think about others? Calculate the time. And this least period of time others spend to think about you.
Hope, you may find something helpful from this. Wish you a better future. Thank you.
Mr. Shariful Islam
28, Peer Counselor, Monchithi, DUOS
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